Week of 8/23 - The Message That Will Save Your Marriage

Series Overview

God doesn’t want us to make a dent in our society; He wants us to make a difference.

Series Key Verse

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be filled. - Matthew 5:6

Preparation

In this passage Jesus makes the statement “Blessed are those who" just want to get it right. Our culture today seems to be trying to redefine what is right. Every battle begins with hunger, the hunger for wealth for power for freedom. This series will equip us with the truths and insights too stay hungry and continue to fight for righteousness, what is right for our lives and the lives of those we hold dear. 

What are you hungry for? What are you willing to fight for? Your marriage? Your purity? your children?

We are in a battle. Will you run or stand and fight?

SESSION OVERVIEW

Despite what Hollywood has told us, happily ever after may be great for romantic movies and novels, but marriage is not always happy. In this session, we discuss how marriage is designed for holiness. As we learn to serve our spouses instead of laying on expectations, we will find happiness. 

KEY PASSAGE

Ephesians 5:25-27 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

GOAL FOR THIS SESSION

For all people, married or single, to understand marriage as God intended it to be.

KEY POINTS

  1. Pray for Your Spouse or Future Spouse
  2. Observe then Serve
  3. Love and Respect
  4. You Go First

LEADERSHIP 101

Anytime marriage is discussed in a group setting, it can become tricky. Make every effort to keep your groups focused on the principles of marriage. More often than not, people will open up about the faults of their spouse. Make sure to quickly shut this down and remind them the truths about the principle are for strengthening their marriage and that change can only come when we individually practice these principles. 

REFRESH 

Watch the video from this week's sermon if need be.

Session: The Message that Will Save Your Marriage

DISCUSSION

Use the questions provided in each session to facilitate your group’s discussion and application of each topic.

GET GOING

  • What is the best romantic movie you have ever seen?
  • Was there a sequel to it? Why not?
  • Why are there problems in marriages? (Two imperfect people in close living quarters= ISSUES.)

GET DEEP

Read Genesis 2:24-25

  • What does this scripture tell us about any marriage issue? Is it his issue? Her issue?

Read Ephesians 5:25

  • How did Christ love the church?
  • Why is this the standard for men in marriage?  

Read Ephesians 5:26-27

  • Women, would it be difficult to love a man who loved you unconditionally and sacrificially?

GET REAL

Read 1 Peter 3:7  

  • How can we properly pray for our spouse?
  • What can we observe to better serve our spouse?

Read 1 Peter 3:8-9  

  • Why is it important to seek out your spouse love language?
  • What happens when we try to serve our spouse with our own love language?
  • Why is communication so key in the area of love languages?

Read Ephesians 5:33  

  • Do you remember what Don said the ratio was between encouragement and criticism in the average marriage?  (1 encouragement to 7 criticisms)
  • What are the adverse affects on marriage caused by this ratio?
  • If you want your marriage to change, where should that change begin?

NEXT STEP

Help your group identify and take next steps with Jesus. Pray with them and for them, and ask about their next steps later this week.

Possible Next Steps

  • Attend the “From this Day Forward” equip class together, in October.
  • You may need to apologize to your spouse for areas where you have neglected him or her.
  • Begin to pray for your spouse in the proper way.
  • Help others who are struggling in their marriage by sharing the truths you have learned from this message.

PRAY

Ask Jesus to bless your spouse and make you a better spouse. If you are single, pray for your future spouse. Ask God to give you a servants heart toward your spouse