Week of 6/19/2016

Love Revolution, Part 3: Broken   

Series Overview

Jesus was a revolutionary. His message to us was far more world-changing than a cell phone, GPS or any other invention. “Love God and Love Others” was the most important commandment He ever gave. But what does that really look like and how can we do that? In this series, we will dive into what it really looks like to live a love revolution.

Session 3: Broken    


We've all be bruised or broken by someone or something in our lives. But we don't have to live in hurt anymore! When we decide to forgive others and let go of our own brokenness, God begins to repair it.


Matthew 22:37-39, Matthew 18:21-22, Genesis 50:15-21, Luke 6:37, Luke 23:24, Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13, Matthew 6:14-15, 1 John 1:9



  1. We must forgive completely and continually.
  2. Unforgiveness is when we hold a grudge
  3. There is freedom in forgiveness!
  4. Forgiven people forgive people.

Session 3: Broken


Remember these discussion questions are a guide for you. Follow up questions or other insights may be needed by you according to your group’s needs.


Read Matthew 22:37-39

Often when we think of loving our neighbor, we think of helping them with a need they may have. How does this verse change when we have been legitimately hurt by “our neighbor” another person?

How does lack of forgiveness for others hinder us from having a full life in Christ?

Pastor Bryan gave us a recap of the story of Joseph.

In that recap who did he say Joseph may have felt betrayed him? (Brothers and God)

How does our pain from others sometimes make us frustrated with God?

Pastor Bryan Pointed out that at some time Joseph forgave his brothers. That means there was a moment that he said “I chose to forgive my brothers!”. 

What do you think that Joseph may of felt his brothers owed him?

What do we feel like we are owed when we are wronged?

How did Pastor Bryan define forgiveness? (Forgiveness is the moment when you make the choice that the person who legitimately hurt you doesn’t owe you anymore.)

Do you think that the feeling of betrayal, hurt, anger and confusion suddenly went away when Joseph forgave his brothers?  

Does forgiving someone equate to forgetting the wrong done?  

Read Matthew 18:21-22

Why did Peter believe to forgive someone 7 times was probably more than generous? (the number 7 represent completeness so naturally if you forgive someone completely that should be enough)

How did Jesus response of 77 time or 7 x7 proof that forgiveness is not just a onetime event for emotional human begins? (77 time or 7x7 means that the the forgiveness process is ongoing because we must continually fight our emotions of hurt, betrayal anger and confusion. 

Key Point 1: We must forgive completely and continually.

Some would argue that to forgive someone who has wronged them completely and continually isn’t fair.

What would happen if God was fair with us?

Was being fair ever God’s intention?

How is our calling to reflect Christ apply even to those who have done us wrong?

Read Genesis 50:15-21

What was Josephs brothers biggest fear in verse 15? (that Joseph would hold a grudge)

Did Joseph's brother ask for forgiveness or admit to doing wrong?

Should we only forgive those who ask or admit to doing wrong?

How do we let people continue to hurt us when we wait on them to act before we give forgiveness?

Key Point 2: Unforgiveness is when we hold a grudge.  

What was Josephs response in verse 19 to their lie they made up about what their father said?

How did Joseph see the good in all the bad his brothers had done to him?

Is God capable of taking the wrong done to you and use it for good? Not asking can he the question is he capable.

How does verse 21 show that he had indeed found freedom by forgiven his brothers?

Do you think he ever had feeling of hurt, or anger or confusion? How do you think he combated those feeling? (by returning to the moment he made the decision in his hear that his brothers didn’t owe him anymore)

How is holding a grudge equivalent to drinking poison and expecting someone else to die?

Key Point 3: There is Freedom in Forgiveness

How do we sometimes hold others to a different standard then we do ourselves?

As best you can list the wrongs committed against Jesus in the last 24 hours of his life.

Read Luke 6:37

What is this verse clearly saying?

Read Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13, Matthew 6:14-15

How is our forgiveness based on what God has done for us not what others have done to us?  

Key Point 4: Forgiven People Forgive People.   

Read 1 John 1:9

How many times will we find forgiveness in Christ?

How did the Stick Illustration at the end of the service affect you?


If you have never began a relationship with Christ, your first step is to ask God to forgive your sin and receive the gift of salvation given to us by Jesus death on the cross and his resurrection.  

Are you still holding unforgiveness towards some one? Your Next Step is break the chains of unforgiveness by forgiving that person or persons. Saying to them “you don’t owe me anymore”. This doesn’t mean the hurt, confusion anger or pain will go away but when it does you can remember that moment when you forgave them and walk in freedom.

Are you holding on to a grudge? Your Next Step is to remember that the grudge you hold is harming you and not the person who wronged you. Remember the forgiveness you received in Christ and don’t be held down by the sins of others in your life.


Thank God for the forgiveness we have received. Pray for one another that we can give and receive forgiveness so that we can live the full life Jesus promised. Pray that we will be reminded, when our emotions rise that we don’t have to be bound by them but can remember that we have set ourselves free though forgiving others.