Week of 1/28/2018

I Quit Complaining

Talking through the message during the week helps you turn what God is saying to you into action steps. These talking points, questions and scriptures are designed to help you take the next step. If you are leading a group through this guide, don’t feel like you have to answer every question. Pick out those questions that will stir up conversation and action among your group. 

  • What are the most common complaint you here from others in general? 

Read: Philippians 2:14-15 - Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, 

  • What do you do when things go wrong? How do you react? Are you a person who steps up and puts on a positive attitude or are you a complainer. Sometimes it is easy to fall into a whiney state-of-mind, but the Bible has some advice and inspiration about complaining… 

Read: Matthew 12:34-36 - Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.  A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things.  But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” 

  • Have you ever met a Joyful Complainer? A Person who whines & moans all the time, and yet, is full of Joy? 
  • How does being negative and complaining reveal your heart and harm your heart? 
  • How does this effect a person’s everyday life? 

From a negative heart overflows negative words, which generally become negative actions, resulting in a miserable life. 

Read: 1 Corinthians 15:33 - Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits. 

  • How do those we surround ourselves with determine who we become? 

Read: Proverbs 18:21 - Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. 

  • How does our complaining and our encouraging differently impact the lives of others around us? 

Read: I Thessalonians 5:18-19 - In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. Do not quench the Spirit. 

  • How does our attitude of gratitude change our perspective? How does this happen? 


Only when we change our hearts can we change our outlook. The first step to stop complaining is to begin to reflect on the blessing that you have around you. As you focus on the blessings the less you will have to complain about. 

Check the crowd you run with. Are those you surround yourself with making you a better person or an unjoyful critic? Your Next Step may be that you find other to associate who will encourage you helping you to help others. 

Once you have adjusted your attitude to one of gratitude and surrounded yourself with encouraging people you will begin to need to monitor you words to help you maintain a healthy heart.