Week of 4/22/2018

Session 3 Sabotage

Power of the Words We Use. 

This weekend continue the series called “Sabotage”.  Life is made up of relationships. A life of satisfaction, happiness and peace comes by developing and maintaining healthy relationships. Unfortunately, we all have patterns and behaviors that can harm or sabotage our relationships. Over the next 6 weeks we will discover and explore these behaviors and how we can overcome them with simple biblical truths.  

Breaking the Ice

  • What is one word that people use all the time, that you hate to hear someone else say?  
  • Men on average use 7,000 words a day as compared to women that use on average 20,000 words. Is your house average? 

Our words have certainly sabotaged some of the relationships that we've all been in.

Read Proverbs 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. NIV


  • How can simple words build up or destroy?
  • Are the majority of your words building words or destructive words? 
  • When you think about your most painful moments in life, were there words involved? 
  • Do you still remember something someone said to you that encouraged or discouraged you? 

Read Proverbs 21:23 Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble. (NLT)

  • Have you ever said something you wish you could take back? What about a Facebook post or a text or an email? 
  • Do you tend to be more encouraging when you are in a good mood or bad mood? Why is that? 

Read Matthew 12:33-35 

33 “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. 34 You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. 35 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. NIV

  • How do our words reveal our heart? 

Read Ephesians 4:29 NIV

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

  • Pastor said every word has a price tag. Do you ever think about the cost of your words before you speak? 
  • How can listening better help us to use our words better? 

Read Proverbs 15:4 

Gentle words are a tree of life: a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. NLT

  • People have been hurt by others; how can we use our words to heal their spirit?

Next Step

Remember that words can never be unspoken so count the cost before you speak, because there are no neutral words. 

Learn to listen so you can use the right words for those you are in relationships with

1.  Who are the top 5 most important people that God has put in your life?

2.  What do they need to hear from me?