Week of 4/29/2018

Session 4 Sabotage

Power of the Words We Use.

This weekend continue the series called “Sabotage”.  Life is made up of relationships. A life of satisfaction, happiness and peace comes by developing and maintaining healthy relationships. Unfortunately, we all have patterns and behaviors that can harm or sabotage our relationships. Over these 6 weeks we will discover and explore these behaviors and how we can overcome them with simple biblical truths.  

Breaking the Ice

  • What is a word or phrase that you’ve picked up from your spouse or one of your friends?

  • What kind of hobby do you have that you learned from a friend?

Today, we discover the wisdom of surrounding yourself with the right kind of people.

Read Proverbs 13:20, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.” (NKJV)

  • These are your inner circle friendships

Main Content

  • Look at your inner circle friendships

    • Do you want to raise your kids like they do?

    • Do you want to handle your money like they do?

    • Do you want to become the same type of person they are?

  • Why is it important to keep some of our friends out of our inner circle?

Here are four behaviors we should avoid in our inner circle friends:

#1) Pride. Read Proverbs 16:18, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (NKJV)

  • How does pride lead us to become judgmental and arrogant?

  • How can our friends’ arrogance lead us to become arrogant?

#2) Lies. Read Proverbs 12:22, “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth.” (NLT)

  • Why is telling the truth so important in friendships?

  • Have you ever gotten caught in a lie? How did it feel?

#3) Gossip. Read Proverbs 11:13, “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”

  • Pastor said if a person gossips about others eventually they will gossip about you.

  • How does gossip harm others?

#4) Drama. Read Proverbs 16:28, “A perverse (wicked) person stirs up conflict (drama), and a gossip separates close friends.” NIV

  • Do you know anybody like that?

  • How can we defuse drama in our life?

Next Step

Remember, your friends determine the quality and the direction of your life.

  • Which of my friends should be in my inner circle?

  • Which of them should I keep at arm’s length?

  • What do I need to do to be an inner circle type friend to others?