Session 6 Sabotage
Dealing With Conflict.
This weekend continue the series called “Sabotage”. Life is made up of relationships. A life of satisfaction, happiness and peace comes by developing and maintaining healthy relationships. Unfortunately, we all have patterns and behaviors that can harm or sabotage our relationships. Over these 6 weeks we will discover and explore these behaviors and how we can overcome them with simple biblical truths.
Breaking the Ice
What would a movie be like without any kind of conflict?
What is your favorite conflict from a movie, whether it was resolved or not?
Today, we see that conflict is inevitable in every authentic relationship, and how we respond to conflict determines the quality of our relationships.
Read Romans 12:18, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” NIV
When it comes to conflict, do you tend towards fighting or running away?
Why should we strive to live at peace with everyone?
How can working through conflict help us grow in our relationships?
There are four different biblical ways to respond to conflicts
#1) Seek to glorify God. Read Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” NIV
Whatever conflict you have right now, you have an agenda.
How can our agenda get in the way of God helping us through our conflicts?
#2) Focus on your faults. Read Matthew 7:3-5, ““Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.“
How does saying “You may be right” help us work through conflict?
#3) Listen more, talk less. Read Proverbs 18:2, “Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions.” NIV
Listening is not waiting to talk, and the best way to resolve conflict is with our ears, not with our mouth.
In a conflict, what are some things we should be doing while listening to the other person?
#4) Gently restore if given the opportunity. Read 2 Corinthians 5:21, “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” NIV
God restored us while we were in conflict with him, and we should do the same to others.
Why is it important to be gentle as we work for restoration in a relationship?
Remember, conflict is inevitable in every authentic relationship, and how we respond to conflict determines the quality of our relationships.
How can you handle conflict biblically this week?