MY STUPID MOUTH
Week 3: Don't be Lyin' to Me! – Lying
Words don’t just make noise. They communicate meaning, define relationships and impact your future. Our words can give life or take life; they can build up or tear down. What you say says something about you. In Week 3 of My Stupid Mouth, we had to face our own tendency toward the “cover up.” Men lie 8 times more about themselves than women, and women generally lie to protect someone else. Whichever way you lean, all of us can know this: when we compromise the truth, we build walls and burn bridges.
1. Do you have a go-to “excuse” to get out of tough situations? Like, “I’m sorry, I have to wash my hair” or “You know, I just found that email in my spam folder?”
2. Read Proverbs 12:22. God doesn’t just hate lying because it’s wrong… He hates lying because He loves people. Talk about some of the reasons why God hates lies and loves those who tell the truth.
3. Is lying ever okay? Why or why not? Read Ephesians 4:25 for context.
4. Read John 8:44-45. Jesus says some pretty harsh words to these guys… It’s interesting that Jesus talks about lying like it’s genetic: “Like father, like son.” If the Devil is the father of lies, and God is our Father, how does that impact our level of honesty? How honest do you think God really expects us to be?
5. How do you feel about the statement, “The root reason most of us lie is because we don’t completely trust God?” What does lying to someone have to do with trusting God?
6. Read John 8:32 and James 5:16. Lies bring bondage, but the truth brings freedom. Is there anything you feel you should stop covering up that you can share with your group or someone you trust? It could be something as little as stealing free lunches off the company credit card or as big as unfaithfulness to your spouse. In what areas of your life do you need to start trusting God with the truth?
Lying isn’t just an easy out, it’s a crack in our armor. It’s kind of like the small crack on a windshield that, if left alone without repair, just gets bigger and bigger. However painful coming clean might be, it’s not as painful as it will be if it’s allowed to splinter your character and relationships for a longer period of time. Here’s the challenge: Come clean to who you need to with the phrase, “I haven’t been
completely honest about ________.” Or, if you are living an honest life but someone you love isn’t, find the courage to share with them your concern that they haven’t been completely honest with you. Do it from a place of love, seeking to build up the other person. You may start with the phrase, “I love you, and I want the best for this relationship, so I want to ask about something that’s been bothering me.” End your conversation by praying together and thanking God for the other person.
CHANGING YOUR MIND
Therefore, confess your sins to each another and pray for each other so that you may be healed . . . James 5:16