How to Get What You Really Want | Week 3

Week 3 - Last Things First   

INTRODUCTION   

What do you want? What do you really want? We’ll never get what we really want until we discover what is most valuable. And what we naturally want is often in conflict with what we ultimately value. So, to figure out what you really want, you have to figure out what you value.    

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS   

1. When Pastor was reading through the funeral exercise from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, what came to mind?  

   • Have you worked through this exercise before or a similar one?   

2. What themes surface when you think about what you want to be said at your funeral by the people you love and respect the most?   

3. In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey wrote, “If you carefully considered what you wanted to be said of you in the funeral experience, you will find your definition of success.” Based on this observation, what is success for you?   

   Read Galatians 5:22–23

   But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 

4. Which of these virtues parallels or reflects what you want people to say about you at your funeral?    

5. Which fruits of the Spirit do you worry might interfere with your personal and professional goals? Is there an actual conflict?   

6. Respond to this statement Pastor made toward the end of his message: “What you really want and what God really wants for you may be closer than you imagine.  

• “Does this come as a surprise?  

• If this is true, what are the implications?   

MOVING FORWARD   

Pastor closed the message by saying, “When we discover what we really value, we are less prone to settle for what we merely want.”   

• Is there a conflict between what you actually value and what you are currently pursuing?   

• Is there a conflict between your values and your behavior?   

CHANGING YOUR MIND   

Read Galatians 5:25–26  

Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking, and envying each other.