The Nine | Three: The Achiever
Big Idea:
It’s not just about who you are, It’s about the best version God has created you to be.
Note to the Leader:
This is a help for you to engage and guide the conversation with you group.
Do your best to make this story come to life by asking questions that will spur your group into seeing this play out in real time.
You do not have to read every question; they are just there if you need them to move the main idea forward.
Getting Started:
Read Romans 12:4-5
Being different just means we’re all fulfilling different parts of the same equation.
· This week specifically we focus on the 3: Achiever, are there any “3s” in the group?
· What are the strengths/weaknesses of the Three: Achiever?
Note: This is a great opportunity to invite your group to take the test if they haven’t already. Just download EnneaApp and click “Find your results”.
Digging In
This week’s biblical character who reflects a 3 is Jacob.
Read about Jacob in Genesis 25:21-26
· Who is Jacob?
· What is the significance of Jacobs story in the bible?
· When Jacob grabs the heel of Esau, how does this reflect the tendencies of the 3?
Jacobs goal was always to be ahead because he was driven.
· Would you say you’re a driven person? If yes, what drives you?
· What would the world look like without driven and ambitious people?
· Is there ever a point where being too ambitious and driven is an issue?
o If yes, what is that point?
Read summary of Jacob stealing the birthright
One day Jacob is in the kitchen, making some homemade chili. He’s cooking and his brother Esau comes in and says, “I’m starving to death, I’m sick, I’m going to faint. Please give me something to eat, I beg you.” Jacob said, “Sure, for your birthright.” Taking from his brother all his rights of inheritance from being the first born. Jacob deceived his own flesh and blood to get ahead in life.
· The pastor said “Our drive should lead us to a person, not a place or position”
· What was meant by this?
· Has there been a time where you had your sights set on a title or a position? Did you do anything to get ahead? Explain your situation.
· How can being driven towards a position be wrong?
The key motivation of an Achiever is to feel worthy
· What are some ways we try to find our worth and value?
· A three can feel left out and doubted when they are not recognized for their success. Has there been a time where you did not fully feel recognized after you achieved something?
The weakness of an Achiever is that they deceive.
Don’t get defensive just yet! One of the biggest ways we deceive is by deceiving ourselves. We put on masks and a façade that tells everyone that we’re great and we’re okay when we’re actually a mess.
· The pastor said that God wont bless who you pretend to be.
· Why do we deceive ourselves?
· To the 3’s in the group: What is one way you deceive yourself?
Another way we deceive is through our motives. They aren’t always with the other persons best interest in mind but our own.
· Think about a time where your motives were not pure. What was the result?
· What are things that we can do to check our motives?
Next Step:
The big questions for the 3 is Do you know who you are? And Do you know whose you are?
Your identity is not in your successes or your achievements, but in living your life fully how God intended it to be. You have big dreams of which you have the ability to achieve, the only thing standing in your way is you.
· How can you get out of your own way to achieve something new this week?
Closing Prayer
Each week there is a specific prayer geared for the number we are looking at. Here is the prayer for the Three: Achiever
Prayer for the Achiever:
“God help me to find success in you and in you alone.
Help me to strive for obedience as I seek you.
I cast aside personal ambition and success so that I
can be fully focused on you and your plan for my life.
Amen.”
